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Its been almost an year since I started staying all-alone. Which consequently gave me substantial chances to introspect and retrospect myself, my attitude and my mood along with other demographics.
And believe me or not, I know that I am very moody a person. Also, I have significant control over it, but its fun to let it swing and face the consequences. Anyhow, this behavior of mine made me work on it. Its but obvious that I am not going to fix myself, then what is that I should be working on?
> Considering behaviour to be a relative subject & as an old saying goes, it takes two hands to clap. I being the first hand and people being the other. I thought of working out something which could assist the other-hand i.e. You - The People! :D
So, I give you 'ways' to deal with people like me.
1. Don't take things to your heart.
Well, I mean that you shouldn't be taking things personally. Most of these critical people are fair and impartial in their conduct.
They deal everyone the same, if you feel otherwise, don't be afraid to question the same. Let your ideas get to them. Only you can tell them how you took their communication, they are not Gods that they'll know while you sit quiet. Speak > Exchange > Discuss > Brainstorm > Resolve.
2. They have the best feedbacks.
Its like you are in a relationship with a fake person; and all-blind in Love. A third-person comes & tells about your partner's reality. It's obvious you will not like these third-person/rude/critical/blunt people. But! they are correct most of the times, because they are omni-visionary and original in their thoughts. They are observation driven and not influenced by grape-vine. Do consider their comments, no matter how crude the comments are.
3. If you can crack jokes on them, learn to take some back as well.
You may never know of the exact situation the other person is witnessing. You maybe in a party, while the person in a meeting doing some firefighting. You may have all the time in the world to gossip, while the person might be running against his deadlines -OR- vice-a-versa. You may surely get unexpected replies, uncomfortable responses, etc; and it happens!, its Okay!
And in-case you feel you are being ill-treated and you are always a subject to laugh about > Grant it to them! Let go with the flow. But, later-on do communicate if there was something about the whole thing you didn't like > very clearly. They will surely appreciate it and may improve as well.
4. Drawing the nectar from words.
Most of these people have a to-the-point approach. It's usually because of the profession or pressing-situations they are into, most of the times. Bear with them, try to take their statements in a healthy way rather than you-making-it-sound-negative. If you are going to have your BP bumped up for a bunch of words, my dear, you are at stake, not them. And try to read between the lines, there are many hidden stuff in there, its a matter of perspective. Take deep breaths and ponder upon what they had to say or they'd written to you.
5. Discuss things they are weak at.
This is the best way to stay connected with such people. Choose topics which are not philosophical or statistical in nature. Take up light topics, and the ones you know which can help them relax. Be kind and you'll sooner you'll realize they are real good listeners, why?, because you are talking about something they are weak at. For sure they will struggle to master it. By that time, you should be all set to switch to another light topic. :D
6. Please don't expect, and you just might get what you need.
If you are going to set expectations, its for sure, you are going to get yourself hurt. If you feel that you are not being attended, its okay. Because, when you'll actually require an advice, they will be upfront in getting a whole lot of it to you. They may not turn out to be great gossip-mongers, but their free advices will certainly fetch you a solution, if not, it will surely get you closer to one.
7. Ignore + Avoid = Dead Snake!
You hate them. You don't like the way they respond. You don't like them for not responding. You don't like them for being rude. You don't like their criticism. You don't like their jokes. You don't like their fundas. You don't like their presence. You don't like the way they dress or look.
> Buddy, you better ignore to what they have to say or project; and avoid them! You OWN your life, not they. Don't hurt yourself and do not cook reasons to put the blame on them. Irrespective of the situation, You are the one who has to choose the course of your life.
An ending note.
I hope if not all, at least one of these you'd be able to apply in the due course of your life time > in office or at home > over an SMS or an e-mail > over the phone or at a coffee shop > over the dinner or a movie. Come'on guys, we are all the same! Its a matter of time, if you think you are a better person, cushion the other, grant it to him/her. Breathe Deep > Think Fresh > Stay Happy!
>>> And I really like the point 7, I would like to mark it as my favourite followed by point 5. Having it all said, I am in no mood to change myself, take me the way I am. (: